The pupose of marrying

 My parents had 4 children, 3 girls and 1 boy. I was a youngest one, and a girl.
I used to hear a lot from grandma since I was a little. The ward is "I wish you are a boy."
The word hurt my little heart very much, even I knew she loved me a lot.

That made me to  think about so many things.
Why are there man and woman in the world?
Why do my friends in the school have dad and mom like I do? , and so on.

I asked so many questions for my family members. And then I realized no one could answer.

When I was around 10, I asked again to Mom. "Why did you bear me?"
Of course there was no answer.

When I was a High school kids, my mind was full of questions.
Why am I living?
Why do I study?
Where am I going?
Does life mean just repeating a eating & sleeping?

When I was 21, Divine Principle answered to my all questions.

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The purpose of marrying







 We marry to resemble the form of God. God exists with dual characteristics of masculinity and femininity. He is a unified being in whom both characteristics exist together in harmony. Men and women were created to reflect the dual characteristic of God. Therefore, a man and a woman should come together in complete unity and harmony, become like the seed, and return to the state of the original nature of God.

 Men and women are each only half of a whole entity. Therefore women must conquer the wold of men and men must conquer the world  of woman. They come to resemble God by joining their separate manifestations of God's dual characteristics back together through love.
God and people are to unite based on the love between subject and object partners. The reason God has dual characteristics is also because of love.

A man should know that the woman standing in front of him is God's daughter and the feminine aspect of humanity. Before she is my wife, she belongs to humankind. Only if you can love her as a woman who is loved by humanity and love her as God's beloved daughters, are you qualified to be her husband.Woman are the same. Do not think,"He is my man." Think of him as God son and as a man representative all humankind. You have to love and serve him more than humanity does and more than God does.

In the unification church, we call marriage the "Blessing". The life of a married person is such that a man and woman who had been alone on their path to seek love abandon that path and stand as complement to each other - comforting each other when they feel lonely , sharing joy together when  they feel joy and giving each other strength during difficulties. In this way, one becomes the right foot and the other the left; one becomes the right hand and other the left. Together they praise God, saying they are moving forward with God's love superimposed on the theater of their lives.

Welcome to my meditation world.

 Spring has come here Chester NY finally. This warm spirits easily guide us to a meditation world.

 

       Welcome to my meditation world.

 I came to US from Japan when I was 26.　My mom was crying silently with tears, and talking to me  "I wish I could take care of my grand kids. You will find out parental heart when you become a parent."
In that time it is not popular for the international marriage in Japan.

 Since I am getting closer to her age, I can understand her parental heart.
 I remember she said this also "Parents have a lot of responsibility to take care of their children, but  grandparents will be able to  receive only fun part from their grand kids."
I am not sure about that since I do not have them yet.

  However I can guess that a lot of experience like challenging, repentance, and keep going with hope have been making my heart more understandable and grateful than before.

I can see that it is shinning up and giving me smile with  joy and comfort.

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The true freedom that gave us comes with the precondition of responsibility. How much chaos and destruction would occur if people were to insist on and practice the freedom of love only as individuals, without fulfilling their responsibility? The perfection of human beings, who are destined to realize the lofty ideal of love, is possible only when they take responsibility for love.

 That responsibility has three components. The first responsibility is to become the master of the freedom of true love, knowing how to cultivate and control oneself and truly grateful to God for granting the freedom to love. This responsibility for a love relationship should not be undertaken merely because of law or social convention. Instead, a person should take responsibility through self-control, self-determination and life in a vertical relationship with God.

 The second responsibility is toward one's object partner. By nature, people do not want to share the love of their partner with anyone else. The horizontal relationship between husband and wife is different from vertical relationship between parents ans children. When it is divided, its perfection is destroyed. This is because of the principle of creation, which is based on the absolute oneness of love between couples. People have the responsibility to absolutely love their partner.

 The third responsibility is to love one's children. Parental love is the foundation of a child's pride and happiness. Children receive life from their parents, who have created harmonious oneness through true love, and they want to be raised in such love. The most precious responsibility toward children is not only to raise them externally, but also to provide the life elements of true love that will complete their spirituality. This is the reason the family is important.   <Rev. Moon>

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 A healthy family is a core of  happiness and world peace.

 

What makes a good life?

Robert Waldinger: What makes a good life? Lessons from ... - TED.com

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Dec 23, 2015

Robert Waldinger: What makes a good life? 

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Lessons from the longest study(75years) on happiness.
I understand that the long healthy life comes from happy family with good strong relation ship.

I really think all medical doctors in the world have to study about how to make and maintain the good relationship.

 Also Science and Religion, they  have been searching for happiness. But today they brought confusion in our life. I think they have to search humbly eternal happiness with other view point.     

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The love between husband and wife is the force that implants God within them. Originally, parents are stand in God's position, with the husband and wife each representing one side of God. their sons and daughters also are small embodiments of God. Once they connect to the true love of God, the origin of true love, all of them become part of the same body. Parents are living representative of God on earth. The husband and wife represent of God, as do the children and the grandparents. In this way three generations stand in God position, centered on true love. A family structure centered on true love like this is the foundation for the kingdom of heaven. --Rev Moon--

I will be 61 next month.

 I will be 61 next month. I could not imagine that I would live until this age. I am happy to be younger looking for my age.

 But I have been asking my self if I am mature enough to be my age. I wish I could be deeper , understanding and thoughtful person for other people. I guess I should accept my reality and I will try to be closer to  my ideal personality step by step.

 I am grateful for my husband and 3 children. Because of them, I could become a wife and mother.
If I could have an another chance to restart having babies again, I could be better mother.
I think most parents think this way. But I am sure I received a countless gifts though  raising up my children.
Most parents think this way as well.

 My family members have made me grow as a wife and mother stretching my heart. I think I can give a reward to my self. It is because I tried so hard to be good wife and a good mother making a lot of mistakes.

 I remember my mothers word before leaving Japan. 'When you become parent, you will find out your parents' heart.'

 As a being parent, I can understand little bit Heavenly Parents heart (God's heart) as well as my own parents.

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What is a Family?

When we study the meaning of the family, it is written a garden of house in Chinese character.
Parent and siblings in a family are like the colorful varieties of lovely flowers in a garden. The family should be a joyful, singing and dancing. If family members fights each other, the garden will become a wilderness. When a flower hears harmonious music it grows well. but if it hears discordant music it cannot. The same goes for a family. When its members hear the melody of love they can grow wonderfully. What makes them do so is the heart of love.

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In a family there are parents, husband and wife, sons and daughters; and there are word surely other relatives living around you.
It is not mere words that unite them. It is not money that draws them together, nor the the necessity of living and eating together. Sharing the same house does not guarantee that family members will get along well. It is mutual affection, no matter who is older and who is younger, that allow them to overcome the difficult of life together, in unity. Vertical and horizontal, left and right, front and back; within a family all these relationships are harmonized through the love not only of mother and father, of husband and wife, of brothers and sisters. but also of grandparents and grandchildren. The family with love as its core is foundation upon which each of its members bonds with others, moves and acts. A family is based on love. ~True family in Cheon seong gybong

What is happiness?, and where does it come from?

 Everyone seeks happiness. And there are many kind of happiness. But I think that happiness comes from the relationship with others.
Also sadness comes from relationship. That means how to make good relationship is crucial  for our life. 

               

 Let me tell you my experience.
I worked last 2 weekend in the Japanese Market  this February. When I was doing the cash register, a man came up to me, and asked to exchange his broken $10 to the nice one. I said "I don't think so, a bank cannot accepts that, but can you go to the customer service?" He started screaming and shouting so loud. So I exchanged it. But I felt so bad. I guess almost everyone has this kind of experience.

 There are negative or  positive spirit in the cosmos. There are good or better kind people and evil or worse kind of people in the world. We can say that the person makes others happy, he or she is good person, and the opposite case is bad one. I guess we can be sometime  good persons and sometime not.

 The most important point is how to react when we faced to the evil force.

 The night I found Rev. Moon's word ' Never fight, never take offence and just understand others.'
I have realized that this is the meaning of  "living for sake of others".

 Then finally I could find sympathy for him in my heart. And I got peace again in myself.

Life is too short to be selfish. ---<Rev. Moon>

I got a class in the college.

 I've become a student in the Middle town college.(SUNY) I am taking a class of US History.
It is very interested. The teacher was talking a lot about the Predestination. I guess US History cannot be explained without Bible. He mentioned a contradiction about the Predestination.

{Predestination, in theology, is the doctrine that all events have been willed by God, usually with reference to the eventual fate of the individual soul.^[1] Explanations of predestination often seek to address the "paradox of free will", whereby God's omniscience seems incompatible with human free will. In this usage, predestination can be regarded as a form of religious determinism; and usually predeterminism.}

Family is a school of love.

 I got a student ID 3days ago. Because  I am over 60. I got the tuition waver.
I chose the class of US History. Someone said that History is God story. I love any kind of history.
 Looking back of my past, it is a small herstory.
It is most grateful things and achievement in my life is that I have my family to love. When you read the below, you can understand how I got a precious things, and I hope everyone can get it.
Family is a school of love to attend the Kingdom of Heaven on the earth.





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A fruit  comes forth from the condensing of elements after a tree has gone through the hardships of nature for twelve months of a year. Then how does love bear fruit? Because people have not known the answer to this question, this world has become wicked and family has broken down. Parents are not just somewhat necessary. From the view point of love, they are absolutely necessary. It is the same with children, with siblings, and with a wife or husband. A spouse is absolutely necessary. The family is where people are trained in their ability to love one another, and this love is realized in the Kingdom of heaven.

The family is absolutely indispensable to bring love into the universe. It is through learning in our families how to love our parents that we become capable of loving people of the same age as our parents. It is when we have the experience in our families of loving grandfathers and grandmothers that we become capable of loving people of their age. It is only when you love your husband's sisters that you can love people similar to them. That is the only way that you can come to love all people.

~Rev. Moon~