What makes a good life?

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Dec 23, 2015

Robert Waldinger: What makes a good life? 

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Lessons from the longest study(75years) on happiness.
I understand that the long healthy life comes from happy family with good strong relation ship.

I really think all medical doctors in the world have to study about how to make and maintain the good relationship.

 Also Science and Religion, they  have been searching for happiness. But today they brought confusion in our life. I think they have to search humbly eternal happiness with other view point.     

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The love between husband and wife is the force that implants God within them. Originally, parents are stand in God's position, with the husband and wife each representing one side of God. their sons and daughters also are small embodiments of God. Once they connect to the true love of God, the origin of true love, all of them become part of the same body. Parents are living representative of God on earth. The husband and wife represent of God, as do the children and the grandparents. In this way three generations stand in God position, centered on true love. A family structure centered on true love like this is the foundation for the kingdom of heaven. --Rev Moon--

I will be 61 next month.

 I will be 61 next month. I could not imagine that I would live until this age. I am happy to be younger looking for my age.

 But I have been asking my self if I am mature enough to be my age. I wish I could be deeper , understanding and thoughtful person for other people. I guess I should accept my reality and I will try to be closer to  my ideal personality step by step.

 I am grateful for my husband and 3 children. Because of them, I could become a wife and mother.
If I could have an another chance to restart having babies again, I could be better mother.
I think most parents think this way. But I am sure I received a countless gifts though  raising up my children.
Most parents think this way as well.

 My family members have made me grow as a wife and mother stretching my heart. I think I can give a reward to my self. It is because I tried so hard to be good wife and a good mother making a lot of mistakes.

 I remember my mothers word before leaving Japan. 'When you become parent, you will find out your parents' heart.'

 As a being parent, I can understand little bit Heavenly Parents heart (God's heart) as well as my own parents.

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What is a Family?

When we study the meaning of the family, it is written a garden of house in Chinese character.
Parent and siblings in a family are like the colorful varieties of lovely flowers in a garden. The family should be a joyful, singing and dancing. If family members fights each other, the garden will become a wilderness. When a flower hears harmonious music it grows well. but if it hears discordant music it cannot. The same goes for a family. When its members hear the melody of love they can grow wonderfully. What makes them do so is the heart of love.

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In a family there are parents, husband and wife, sons and daughters; and there are word surely other relatives living around you.
It is not mere words that unite them. It is not money that draws them together, nor the the necessity of living and eating together. Sharing the same house does not guarantee that family members will get along well. It is mutual affection, no matter who is older and who is younger, that allow them to overcome the difficult of life together, in unity. Vertical and horizontal, left and right, front and back; within a family all these relationships are harmonized through the love not only of mother and father, of husband and wife, of brothers and sisters. but also of grandparents and grandchildren. The family with love as its core is foundation upon which each of its members bonds with others, moves and acts. A family is based on love. ~True family in Cheon seong gybong

What is happiness?, and where does it come from?

 Everyone seeks happiness. And there are many kind of happiness. But I think that happiness comes from the relationship with others.
Also sadness comes from relationship. That means how to make good relationship is crucial  for our life. 

               

 Let me tell you my experience.
I worked last 2 weekend in the Japanese Market  this February. When I was doing the cash register, a man came up to me, and asked to exchange his broken $10 to the nice one. I said "I don't think so, a bank cannot accepts that, but can you go to the customer service?" He started screaming and shouting so loud. So I exchanged it. But I felt so bad. I guess almost everyone has this kind of experience.

 There are negative or  positive spirit in the cosmos. There are good or better kind people and evil or worse kind of people in the world. We can say that the person makes others happy, he or she is good person, and the opposite case is bad one. I guess we can be sometime  good persons and sometime not.

 The most important point is how to react when we faced to the evil force.

 The night I found Rev. Moon's word ' Never fight, never take offence and just understand others.'
I have realized that this is the meaning of  "living for sake of others".

 Then finally I could find sympathy for him in my heart. And I got peace again in myself.

Life is too short to be selfish. ---<Rev. Moon>

I got a class in the college.

 I've become a student in the Middle town college.(SUNY) I am taking a class of US History.
It is very interested. The teacher was talking a lot about the Predestination. I guess US History cannot be explained without Bible. He mentioned a contradiction about the Predestination.

{Predestination, in theology, is the doctrine that all events have been willed by God, usually with reference to the eventual fate of the individual soul.^[1] Explanations of predestination often seek to address the "paradox of free will", whereby God's omniscience seems incompatible with human free will. In this usage, predestination can be regarded as a form of religious determinism; and usually predeterminism.}

Family is a school of love.

 I got a student ID 3days ago. Because  I am over 60. I got the tuition waver.
I chose the class of US History. Someone said that History is God story. I love any kind of history.
 Looking back of my past, it is a small herstory.
It is most grateful things and achievement in my life is that I have my family to love. When you read the below, you can understand how I got a precious things, and I hope everyone can get it.
Family is a school of love to attend the Kingdom of Heaven on the earth.





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A fruit  comes forth from the condensing of elements after a tree has gone through the hardships of nature for twelve months of a year. Then how does love bear fruit? Because people have not known the answer to this question, this world has become wicked and family has broken down. Parents are not just somewhat necessary. From the view point of love, they are absolutely necessary. It is the same with children, with siblings, and with a wife or husband. A spouse is absolutely necessary. The family is where people are trained in their ability to love one another, and this love is realized in the Kingdom of heaven.

The family is absolutely indispensable to bring love into the universe. It is through learning in our families how to love our parents that we become capable of loving people of the same age as our parents. It is when we have the experience in our families of loving grandfathers and grandmothers that we become capable of loving people of their age. It is only when you love your husband's sisters that you can love people similar to them. That is the only way that you can come to love all people.

~Rev. Moon~

Questions about my life.

When I was 18, I had a lot of questions about my life.

Why were we brought into this world?
Why do we have to live?
Where are we heading?
We should not think that we were born by our own will.

We were born into this world, yet we do not know the motivation and purpose behind our birth.

We were born, but it was not because we chose to be born.
We were living, but it is not because we decided to live.
We will die, but it is not because we decide to die. ~Rev. Moon~

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When I was a college student, I was looking for an eternal goal which I was able to pursue until I died.
And I found it when I was 21.
Since that I have been on the road.
 I was 60 now.
Yes, life is a journey, it is sometime a beautiful weather, but sometime a heavy storm.
But I am so grateful to know my final destination.
It is important.


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When you start off in a wrong direction, you will end up in a totally unexpected place.
Hence, when a ship sets out on the vast ocean, the captain should chart its course and follow the compass from the moment it first sets sail from port.

Yet many human beings do not even know their port of departure.

They have no compass and no sense of direction or knowledge of their final destination.

they have been wandering about, zigzagging here and their according to their desires. ~Rev. Moon~