The pupose of marrying

 My parents had 4 children, 3 girls and 1 boy. I was a youngest one, and a girl.
I used to hear a lot from grandma since I was a little. The ward is "I wish you are a boy."
The word hurt my little heart very much, even I knew she loved me a lot.

That made me to  think about so many things.
Why are there man and woman in the world?
Why do my friends in the school have dad and mom like I do? , and so on.

I asked so many questions for my family members. And then I realized no one could answer.

When I was around 10, I asked again to Mom. "Why did you bear me?"
Of course there was no answer.

When I was a High school kids, my mind was full of questions.
Why am I living?
Why do I study?
Where am I going?
Does life mean just repeating a eating & sleeping?

When I was 21, Divine Principle answered to my all questions.

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The purpose of marrying







 We marry to resemble the form of God. God exists with dual characteristics of masculinity and femininity. He is a unified being in whom both characteristics exist together in harmony. Men and women were created to reflect the dual characteristic of God. Therefore, a man and a woman should come together in complete unity and harmony, become like the seed, and return to the state of the original nature of God.

 Men and women are each only half of a whole entity. Therefore women must conquer the wold of men and men must conquer the world  of woman. They come to resemble God by joining their separate manifestations of God's dual characteristics back together through love.
God and people are to unite based on the love between subject and object partners. The reason God has dual characteristics is also because of love.

A man should know that the woman standing in front of him is God's daughter and the feminine aspect of humanity. Before she is my wife, she belongs to humankind. Only if you can love her as a woman who is loved by humanity and love her as God's beloved daughters, are you qualified to be her husband.Woman are the same. Do not think,"He is my man." Think of him as God son and as a man representative all humankind. You have to love and serve him more than humanity does and more than God does.

In the unification church, we call marriage the "Blessing". The life of a married person is such that a man and woman who had been alone on their path to seek love abandon that path and stand as complement to each other - comforting each other when they feel lonely , sharing joy together when  they feel joy and giving each other strength during difficulties. In this way, one becomes the right foot and the other the left; one becomes the right hand and other the left. Together they praise God, saying they are moving forward with God's love superimposed on the theater of their lives.

Welcome to my meditation world.

 Spring has come here Chester NY finally. This warm spirits easily guide us to a meditation world.

 

       Welcome to my meditation world.

 I came to US from Japan when I was 26.　My mom was crying silently with tears, and talking to me  "I wish I could take care of my grand kids. You will find out parental heart when you become a parent."
In that time it is not popular for the international marriage in Japan.

 Since I am getting closer to her age, I can understand her parental heart.
 I remember she said this also "Parents have a lot of responsibility to take care of their children, but  grandparents will be able to  receive only fun part from their grand kids."
I am not sure about that since I do not have them yet.

  However I can guess that a lot of experience like challenging, repentance, and keep going with hope have been making my heart more understandable and grateful than before.

I can see that it is shinning up and giving me smile with  joy and comfort.

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The true freedom that gave us comes with the precondition of responsibility. How much chaos and destruction would occur if people were to insist on and practice the freedom of love only as individuals, without fulfilling their responsibility? The perfection of human beings, who are destined to realize the lofty ideal of love, is possible only when they take responsibility for love.

 That responsibility has three components. The first responsibility is to become the master of the freedom of true love, knowing how to cultivate and control oneself and truly grateful to God for granting the freedom to love. This responsibility for a love relationship should not be undertaken merely because of law or social convention. Instead, a person should take responsibility through self-control, self-determination and life in a vertical relationship with God.

 The second responsibility is toward one's object partner. By nature, people do not want to share the love of their partner with anyone else. The horizontal relationship between husband and wife is different from vertical relationship between parents ans children. When it is divided, its perfection is destroyed. This is because of the principle of creation, which is based on the absolute oneness of love between couples. People have the responsibility to absolutely love their partner.

 The third responsibility is to love one's children. Parental love is the foundation of a child's pride and happiness. Children receive life from their parents, who have created harmonious oneness through true love, and they want to be raised in such love. The most precious responsibility toward children is not only to raise them externally, but also to provide the life elements of true love that will complete their spirituality. This is the reason the family is important.   <Rev. Moon>

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 A healthy family is a core of  happiness and world peace.